Admittedly, I found myself on the down and out after a spin out with my latest and greatest crush of the past few months. Instead of getting lost in a Coldplay/Something Corporate/Slipnot scary early 2000s depression throwback moment, I logged online quickly and became inspired. First stop, this Self Love Project page that was actually very fun and impressive. This list that Gala created about things to do when you are upset gave me some much needed inspiration:
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Try on a pair of really, really expensive shoes & act like you’ll be back tomorrow, but you’re just going to go home & think about it. (Bonus points: take a photo of you in them. Often you will need to be stealthy about this but it’s worth doing.)
Pull a Kid CuDi & announce your retirement from the world of something. Like cooking, or vocal communication. Announce your unretirement whenever you feel like it. OBSESSED!
Put on your favourite pair of high heels & walk up & down your bedroom/hallway doing your best Miss J impersonation. Have a friend or neighbour who is willing to humour you offer critique. “Girl, you walk like a busted-down freight-train.”
Spend an hour in your variety store of choice, set yourself a budget ($20?) & buy some junk.Lip treatments, candy, maybe an exfoliating scrub… Then go home & play with your new purchases. There’s a reason it’s called retail therapy, you know (though of course, it doesn’t last). (that’s how I scored this really cute one-eyed lamb statue when my friend Lara moved to Cali)
Throw yourself head-first into a creative project. Something that you’re excited about but which feels a little too big for you. You’ll be so consumed by it that it will fuel you for ages.
Flirt with entirely inappropriate people. (This will take me into too far of a dark place, from my experience, so be careful with this one!)
Make a list of practical, actionable ways you can improve your situation. (Then follow the list. It actually work).
That boost sent me to a quick stop at Pink Berry for the original with berries and a few chocolate chips for some self-pity low calorie food. One art project later and some online style blog perusing, I’m back in my zone.
Being down sucks. Your body hurts and your thoughts are dizzy. The point is that you do not have to make the feeling become an ongoing part of who you are. Feel it out, grieve it out, then pump yourself up, no matter what it takes. Every day you waste feeling sad is a day you could have done something good for yourself and for your life!
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