Women to Love: Kristin Cavallari

Possibly a criticized choice, but Kristin Cavallari is loved by LOVEREVENGESUCCESS for putting herself first and setting an example of how self respect, boundaries and confidence can take you a long way.  Though her approach to other woman can easily be viewed as bitchy, her tactics in managing the average “It” Guy are commendable.

After an embarrassing public break-off of her engagement to Jay Cutler, Kristin did not throw herself shamlessly into a depression spiral of gray sweat pants and a 15lb weight gain, in fact, she shimmied across the stage of Dancing with the Stars looking hotter than ever.  Jay was in the audience and he must have liked her performance because he put a ring on it and, a few months later, she’s pregnant with his baby.

Kristin makes a good point consistently: if your guy isn’t stepping up to the plate, check him and check into some lycra.  This girl puts herself first and carries herself with composure through some bad press and that deserves a cheers from me.

Quitting Carbs: Victory Story 1

Everyone knows that guys are fairly pathetic at dieting (bless their hearts).  If Dan can say not to pizza for a few months and drop 30lbs, so can you.  (This has worked like a miracle for me, and I don’t even miss them)

From the view of Dan, this random guy I found on the internet, but agree with:

A quick word on diet and exercise from a slightly overweight unhealthy guy…

I don’t know jack shit about health. I’m not qualified to tell you about it. I like to party my ass off, and eat the best of everything. Depending on who you ask, I’m 10 to 20 pounds overweight.

I do have some unique health related experiences though. In particular, I have quit 99.5% of white carbs and and sugar in total for about 3 months of my life, on 4 separate occasions. Although there are countless vegans, juicers, fasters, vegetarians, paleos, etc, among us, I’ve met very few people who have 100% dropped the carbs for a month or more.

Just real quick, here’s what I mean by “carbs” for the purpose of this article. It’s not technically the case that I’ve ever stopped consuming carbohydrates. When I’m quitting carbs, I mean I’m quitting:bread, rice, pasta, brown rice and brown bread, cakes, tortillas, crackers, pizza, cookies, cakes, chips, pure sugar, soda, sugar drinks, french fries, potatoes and anything that fits that basic profile. You could say “the middle of the grocery story.” Yeah… I know, all the good stuff.

When I quit those things, here are some of the things I’ve experienced:

• I’ve found it is extraordinary difficult to stick to. Quitting carbs isn’t some hack. It’s a freakin’ slog. Pizza is one of humanities greatest creations, and staying away from it, and a world of other delicious stuff is almost impossible (almost nobody does it…)
• Addiction to carbohydrates feels like addiction to cigarettes. I’ve been addicted to a lot of stuff in my life. I found the addiction to sugar and carbs to feel very similar to my addiction to nicotine cigarettes. Subtle and insistent. It doesn’t feel like an addiction. ‘You can stop anytime.’
• My taste buds got sharper. I noticed this when eating veggies a week or so after quitting carbs, the flavors become much more robust.
• I became profoundly more productive. I can’t think of a single action that has had a greater impact on the amount of stuff I’m able to accomplish. For me, cutting carbs eliminates the succession of highs and crashes throughout a day. Instead, you feel ‘clean’ energy all day long.
• I lost a lot of weight. Like a ton. The first time I quit carbs I lost 30 pounds in a month. Quick aside: in my experience, exercise doesn’t help me lose weight. 85% / 15% diet / exercise is what I’d estimate.
• My mind got sharper. I was able to concentrate longer, and my mind didn’t wander as much.
• I crash on day 2 or 3 and feel super drained. If you do ever decide to experiment with quitting sugar and simple carbs, be prepared to both eat more than you are used to (you’ll be eating less calorically dense food) and to feel a lack of energy during the first few days. I’m on day 3 right now and I’m exhausted to the point of sickness. I can barely concentrate. I’m not sure if it’s related this time, but it’s happened before. If you want to have some fun, search the web for “quitting sugar” and read about people’s experiences doing so. Lots of crying, weeks in bed, etc. Good stuff.
• I feel empowered and so much better. It’s an amazingly big thing to do in your life that doesn’t require a ton of resources or logistics. This wears off pretty damn quick, however, when your friends are biting in to some pizza/hamburgers/etc. There is no question that my body as a whole feels so much better when I’m not eating carbs or sugars.
• It gets expensive. I suppose it doesn’t have to, but I always end up spending a lot more cash/time to buy/prepare meals that fit the guidelines.
• When I quit carbs, I don’t ever really feel “full” in the same way I did when I’m eating them. Whenever I stop eating carbs, I need to re-examine what I mean by “fullness,” why I crave it, and what I need to do to replace it. Eating, and my aims at the dinner table, change a lot for me when I’m not eating carbs.
• When I quit carbs and sugars, I relapse. Every single time, so far.

Thanks, Dan for being an example.

Tunes to Tune Your Feelings

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Whether you feel like a 10, or 10 pounds overweight, treat yourself to a strut down the street to this tune by Keri Hilson because you deserve it!

Tunes to Tune Your Feelings

Right from the mouth of one of my favorite soulful Bad Girls, (the late) Amy Winehouse, is the perfect tune when strutting on from your latest Bad Boy disaster with your head held high.